My philosophy is, if I'm gonna get married I want to be honest from the start. So why bother burying my face in 20 layers of makeup, wearing skimpy outfits that leave me feeling naked and sore, and doing things to my hair NO ONE should do to their hair when that's not me? If you like me as I am, that's great. Alone and cozy is better than in a relationship where every moment feels like a performance.
you don't marry the perfectness within your soulmate, that is as hedonist like to marry to your reflection,you marry nothing but the intricate labyrinth of his/her imperfections and manias those who takes an entire life to solve or to get used to.
that's why i think it's supposed to be till death.
so be your self not the reflection of some one else's wishes but the ever changing labyrinth like-mess who defies every day, and rewards the efforts with true love and self improvement.